Thursday, August 10, 2017

Throwback Thursday?

So I chose the image for this blog with the intention of writing about the past. One of my favorite quotes comes from Buddha and is "Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment." I feel that all too often I spend way too much time thinking about the past and things that I can't change. I spend an excessive amount of time and energy obsessing over things that happened years ago and holding on to anger. In the grand scheme of it all these things do not even matter. Sure they did at the time but being sad or mad or even extremely angry about these things doesn't change anything. In all honesty would I really really want to change these things. Everything that has happened in my life has happened for a reason every choice led me to where I am now and who I am and though I'm doing a lot of work on myself, I like who I am and the values that I have. 

Sometime this weekend I plan on writing a few letters to people I keep holding on to anger toward. I am going to write out everything I feel and that I wish they knew then I'm going to burn those letters and with that I'll let go of all of those feelings. 

I challenge everyone to think of something from their past they are holding on to. Something that truly doesn't serve a purpose. Anger, Sorrow, bitterness. And I want you to let them go. Realize that if you wouldn't have had those things happen you wouldn't be who you are. Throwback Thursdays are great but only when you are thinking of happy things. 

Sunday, July 30, 2017

An Attitude of Gratitude

What are you grateful for? Right this minute can you list 5 things you are grateful for? I can....
1. I am grateful for the beautiful weather we are having. 
2. I am grateful for the kittens in my backyard. 
3. I am grateful for my family, more so I am grateful for the time I get to spend with my family. 
4. I am grateful for all of the wonderful people who are in my life.
5. I am grateful that I have the knowledge that when I fall I will always get back up again. 

I tend to find myself complaining a lot, like doing a crazy amount of complaining. I have found that it accomplishes a whole lot of nothing. I can whine and cry and bitch and moan all day long but you know what it isn't going to make the dishes do themselves or the weather not suck! But what I can do is that I can get an attitude of gratitude. I have been trying to apply Mel Robbin's 5 second rule to my life and I do find that it is helping. When I start the think about something I want to complain about, I.E. the dishes in the sink that need washed --- 5-4-3-2-1 --- and I change my thought process. Instead of complain because I don't want to wash dishes instead I am grateful, those dishes are there because I had a delicious meal that I enjoyed and that will be giving me energy to do other things. It is all about how you see things. I know there isn't some magic quick fix to everything in life but so much in life can be better if you just change the way you are looking at it. 

I'd like to issue a challenge to everyone who reads this blog, everyday write down 5 things you are grateful for it can be anything. You could be grateful for that cup of coffee you had this morning or for some memory from you childhood that helped change who you are. I'll share some of mine at the end of the week. You are more than welcome to share your list as well. Even if you don't sit down and write a list throughout your day if you start having a negative thought count backwards from 5 then think of a good thought.